Confused Dater...

Mentally and emotionally I've been out of it lol. Sounds crazy but I'm just confused by certain situations in my life and being the person that loves to over think stuff I lose sleep over the thoughts i have. One of these situations is of course men. They may say we're confusing and we don't know what we want but they would be lying to themselves if they said they weren't just as difficult to deal with. Lets take about the dude who wasn't sure if he wanted to be serious or not. He was in a relationship that took a lot out of him emotionally which is understandable you need time but after 2 years give it up already. Anyway, we became friends he'd tell me all his girl issues and I'd give him advice. Of course as it always happens he starts feeling me, i start feeling him but he's playing games. I then of course stop pushing myself out there to him and fall back... stop calling...stop texting.. stop bbming and now the kid is sick to his stomach wondering what happened? You see this is where the world of dating is effed up. I have to stop showing interest in a guy for him to show interest in me... WHAT?! I have to shit on a guy for him to treat me good... HUH?! I have to not give a fck about a dudes feelings for him to care about mine... CRAZY! I honestly am tired of it all smh. Like right now I'm so digging someone but society and reality is just preventing me from forming any type of feelings. Of course if he were to tell me tomorrow he's thinking of seriously being with me i would jump for joy lol but right now I guess i have to suck it up and just wait till someone I'm feeling will eventually feel me too without the games, without the headaches... just everything calm and cool like its supposed to be... I know I'm asking for too much though but hey a girl can dream can't she??